Stereotypical Mindsets

Stereotypical Mindsets

Its sad to see how the stereotypical way of looking at things in past are still haunting us. That's why still, we don't tell her daughter's to be ambitious, aim high but rather try but if you don't reach it, don't be disappointed.

How ever educated a girl is, irrespective of where she is in her professional ladder. The expectations at home, from husband or in-laws remain the same. She is always be assessed against the typical measure of taking care of responsibility. Being docile, adjusting, self-sacrificing as the needed traits. Its sad, our education system and social system, does not broaden people's views. Each act of yours, should show that family is your priority and you don't make any calls without consultations. It feels lot of times, people want the girl to erase her identity and become just Mrs so and so.

All adjustments forced on to the girl. Its sad to see, even post having a kid, lot of guys don't change and the upbringing of the kid is more of the wife's responsibility.

Lot of times during courtship, the guys' project a very different side of them, which is to just make the girl say yes. What traits do most guys like, how she looks, does she care for me. Its always the question, what there for me in this.

Do they ever connect at her thought level, what her thinking is and what is her innate nature, what are her dreams? The expectation is always that, she should understand me and change for me.

We as a society has lot of learning to do, to restore faith in lot of these relationships.

Like raindrops soothen the barren earth
True connections help fill holes in one soul

a flower knows how much to open at each stage
it knows it cannot be rushed just acts based on what comes naturally
oh mad gardener why this rush to see it bloom
in an effort to make it bloom sooner, you will make the flower wither away

क्यों है हर सफ़र का मंजिल होना जरूरी
क्यों है हर एक को  कुछ पाने की आस
क्यों नहीं जीते चन्द लम्हे भर पूर
कल की सौच के क्यों करते हो आज खराब
क्या  पाना ही जीवन है ?
क्यों नहीं बहते झरने  की तरह
जो जानती है खेल मिलने बिचड़ने का
अगर  मिलना है संजोग तो कब कोई मिल गया पता ही नहीं चलेगा

शुक्रिया


पेड़ की छाव
सूरज की गर्मी
फूलों की मुस्कान
है हर मौसम में एक समान

बांटे  तू ख़ुशी,  बढाए उमंग
मेरे हर  मौसम में

आज समझी क्या है तेरा मूल धर्म
प्यार, प्यार, बस निर्मल प्यार 

ए खुदा, शुक्रिया




 
   


 

Realisation

It was getting dark, hence everyone started leaving after the evening Satsang. Murali stayed back as he wanted to talk to Sharma Ji bit more and understand the spiritual journey he has gone through.

Murali asked Sharma ji, how did you get interested in the spiritual path? I had heard from people that once upon a time, you were like a free bird, for whom enjoyment meant something else. I am really curious to know what made you change so much.
Hearing the question, Sharma Ji smiled and said, everything is in His hands.

Murali Ji left after hearing this, as he felt that he cannot force Sharma Ji to reveal. If he wills he will tell on his own in one of the Satsangs.

Sharma Ji did his routine meditation and then helped his son do his homework, when his wife announced dinner is ready, he quickly took bath and then had his dinner with family. As he went to bed, his thoughts went to the question  Murali had asked, and he went on a flashback.

Since college, he had a huge circle of friends, loitering with friends, catching a movie or just chatting on random topics was his favorite pass-time. Luckily, the person he got married too was also fond of food and going outdoors. Friday evening meant going out with his gang. Weekends were for family, which always had movie plus dinner in agenda on one of the weekends.  His fun-filled food rich life was reflected in his body, his face became round from oval and his waist acquired some inches of additional circumference.

One day his wife's mother came, she used to follow some baba and would religiously watch his discourse in evening. As a result, even Sharma Ji and his wife was forced to see the same program. Sharma Ji was listening to the discourse half-heartedly and his thoughts went to the cricket match he was missing out. The baba talked about satvic food and the benefits of it and then went on to talk about the 4 principles, do not kill anyone, don’t say lie, be truthful, be loyal to your wife.

After his mother-in-law had gone, he was happy to go back to old routine and was looking forward to go out with friends on Friday. Friday evening, they went to their usual place and ordered chicken curry and beer. Sharma Ji could easily take 3 glasses without any issue, for some reason, he could not take even a single glass that day. He puked as he tried to do bottom's up. Sharma Ji felt may be it’s because of season change. The following sat, the family went out for dinner and they order KFC chicken burger. As soon as Sharma Ji took the first bite, his body made him vomit. 

Sharma Ji and his family was clueless as to why this happened. The same thing happened following week too, Sharma Ji decided to go to the doctor, as he felt his immune system seems to have gone down and must have acquired some new dreaded disease. The doctor examined Sharma Ji and found no issue of any kind, on persistence of Sharma Ji asked him to get some test done. Sadly they all came normal. Sharma Ji slowly stopped going out for food and because of him, even his family stopped going out. Sharma Ji now began spending time reading books, hearing discourses. 

Slowly everyone could see a change in Sharma Ji, he seemed to be always peaceful and smiling. People started asking him the reason for change. Sharma Ji said that he is finding lot of solace in reading good books and hearing good discourses. Everyone asked him to share what he read with them once in a while, and that how the evening satang’s started.

As Sharma Ji, thought of all this...he realized that his path to spirituality began after hearing the first discourse and it was his body which walked on the path first :) and it made his mind follow the body.

प्यारी मेरी दुलारी

हे प्यारी, मेरी दुलारी, तुम क्यों हो सोचती
कि वक़्त बीत गया और अब तुम  न उड़ पावोगी

याद करो तुम अपने वो भोले  निर्मल सपने

जो लहरों  की तरह सीमा विहीन थे

जो तुम्हे कुछ भी है मुमकिन की सीख देते

माना की चाल है अब थोड़ी धीमी
पर मन अब  भी है बच्चे सा निर्मल 

जो  है जानता  सपनो की पतंगे  उडाना 

कटने पे नयी शुरुवात करना   

मत बांधो अपने पैरो में खुद ही बेडिया

तुम चलो  उन्मुक्त हो के

दो अपने सपनो को नए पंख
पूरी कायनात है तुम्हारे संग