Thursday, March 07, 2019

Freedom


While Kali was putting her puppies to sleep, Malli ask, Amma what is the point of all this? When i grow up, i will also become a mother like you and Chubby will become like any other male dog, just eating, fighting and procreating. Is that all i can aspire to be?

Kali said no my dear, lot of people feel there is nothing much a dog does except to guard a territory and procreate. Also do remember their is nothing wrong with doing that too, as you learn to deal with diverse people in your journey,how to love unconditionally, accepting someone as whole(with good and bad), you learn to overcome your fears and also to make peace when the fight is not worth it.  Also for mothers, nurturing the young ones and making them ready to face the big bad world, is their biggest contribution to the world.

Malli felt what her mother said made sense and she seemed to have simplified things very much and made the entire existence pointless. Then she remembered what her mother had said. She asked her mother, is there any other role a dog can take? 

Amma said, some dogs who look for deeper meaning become Monk dogs, they take upon themselves to understand where world is going and what is happening in dog society. They keep roaming from one place to other, if they feel something need to be addressed, they reach out to the wider community.

Malli asked, Amma have you met a monk dog? Kali said, i knew one very closely, my uncle i.e. your grandfather was a monk dog. If not for him, in this region there would have been no Indian Pariah dogs left. Malli gave out a howl to express her admiration.
Amma, please tell me more about him and what he did.

My mother had 3 siblings, 1 elder sister, 1 younger brother and 1 elder brother. They used to live in Bangalore city. In those days, there was independent houses no multi-stories. The only guards were we dogs, hence people used to feed them. We also felt it was our duty to protect them. My mother's elder brother when he was 4 months old, told her mother that he wants to become a Monk as he wanted to explore and be able to live in any situation. My mother then took him out of the territory and left him under the guidance of a old monk dog who used to live in wild.

Post 4 years, when he came back to the place where he was born, he was shocked to see most independent houses were gone or were vacant. Lots of multi storied buildings had come up. Most multi storied buildings had human guards, who sadly slept at night. He felt, how stupid the humans are, they are not leveraging the strengths of all beings and thinking of co-existence.

He saw lot of people having foreign breeds as pets and they treated the Indian Pariah dogs as untouchables. He was saddened to see things this way. He saw the strays impoverished, leading to lot of more anger and intolerance among themselves. Earlier the territories of dogs were such that, each dog had sufficient space and food,  but now seeing the few people who fed them and the scarcity of food outside in the concrete jungle, there were lot of fights and territories had become smaller and smaller.  Also the crime in the dog community seemed to have spiked, something like a rape was unheard of earlier was now becoming common. As a result, to keep the population in control, lot of dogs were being neutered by humans.

He felt if this is the way things will go, Indian Pariah will be extinct soon. One thought that came to his mind was, may be its a good thing, as humans are making the entire earth non livable for all other beings. As he was sinking into helplessness, he remembered what one wise one he met on his expeditions had said, we all are interconnected, each being has a role to play. Even if one link is missing, there will be repercussions.

He also remembered the reason he decided to become a Monk, it was not to escape but to be of help to his clan in the time of need.

While he was lost in his thoughts, he got an idea. It was time for the Indian Pariah to re-learn the ancient wisdom it has lost.

The Monk dog started reaching out to the dogs and telling them about the calming signals dogs use to communicate, which when used right, will lead to no fights and will enable co-existence. Soon this gathered momentum and the words of wisdom spread throughout the country.

Soon all dogs started following calming signals. There were no territory wars, the dogs could understand what each side was trying to communicate. The humans around also noticed the change in the behavior of Indie dogs. No episode of gang wars between dogs were reported anywhere in India. The dog lovers who were active on social media, started writing about Indian Pariah and how its the best dog you can have as pet.

There was a shift in the mindset of people and people started adopting Indian Pariah now.
The Monk Dog felt happy seeing the change in society, he felt he can now peacefully go to the Himalayas and stay in an ashram.

Few years went away, all was fine. 

Once while the Monk Dog was in deep contemplation, he felt the need to check on his clan to see if everything was fine. The Monk Dog started his journey and came to his town. He could see that there were very few dogs on streets, most dogs seemed to be in homes as pets.

As he started surveying, he saw a Rajapalyam, he saw it having so much fat, it looked like a Labrador. The Monk Dog asked him, how come you put on so weight? The dog replied, i get good food at home, there is no reason for me exert myself.

The same story could be seen in each of the houses, most dogs were not alert, they were primarily lazy and were happy that food is served to them.

He also realized that all dogs seemed neutered, which meant post this generation, there won't be any Indian Pariah left in India. He wondered how foolish has the humans have acted, they just kept neutering without realizing when to stop. He gave out a sigh and thought this is what happens when a problem is not looked at holistically and all cause and effects thought through.  

He realized he has to convey it to the humans the importance of balance and to consider  natural processes as sacred. Then he realized, he needed to first save the clan. He needed to find male and female dogs who can mate and for that, he had to first spread awareness among his clan, so that everyone is in the search mode.

When the time was midnight, he started singing a dog song, which was extremely melodious. All the sleeping dogs got up from their slumber to find out who was singing.The monk dog then sang about cycle of life and how everything is connected and how each being as a role to play.
At the end, he let out a question as a howl, will our species continue?
All the dogs got the point and replied to him saying, we will find out who can carry this responsibility.

The next day, when the dogs went out for walks, they were observant of other dogs and they started gathering data, name, gender, address, how old are you? are you neutered? 

The same day, at night the monk dog gave out a howl saying, lets share the data in the afternoon, so that we do not disturb the human beings at night.

In the afternoon, the data sharing started, for each of the 4 zones in the community, the data was collected and 4 dogs were given the responsibility to pass it down to the Monk Dog.

The Monk dog post receiving all the data realized, there is only 1 female dog called Ginger who has not been neutered and there are 2-3 male stray dogs that have not been neutered.

The Monk dog did a broadcast of his thoughts to all dogs at midnight via a song, which basically said, we need to plan an escape for Ginger. Once he finished his song, he heard few female dogs replying back saying, Ginger should have a right to choose a mate. The male dogs cannot determine who is the groom among themselves. The other female dogs gave out a howl to convey their support to the proposal. One of them said, in the current practice of the males deciding the suitor and the suitor coming to the female dog, the female dog has no choice, its not a marriage by consent at all.

The Monk heard  that and then said, lets amend our law from today, the female dogs have complete power to decide whom to marry and they can also decide to say No to all. They will have complete freedom to choose from now on.

All dogs started singing happily and then they heard a human shout "Shut Up". Then they realized, they have crossed a line. They let out a murmur to convey, lets sleep, we can celebrate tomorrow.

Ginger who had listened to all the conversations, realized the responsibility she had, however she was also bothered about the thought of escaping as she knew how much her human parents worried for her when she was gone for even few hours.

The next day, when the maid Bhagyamma came, Ginger greeted her as usual. For Ginger, Bhagyamma was someone she loved the most. When Bhagyamma came, Ginger will just follow her and not worry about anything. However, today she had a plan. When the main door was opened for Bhagyamma, she greeted her and then rushed out from the tiny opening. Bhagyamma was shocked and she let out a cry "Ginger has ran away". On hearing that Ginger's human mother ran to the door and rushed out, however to her surprise, she could not see Ginger anywhere near.

Ginger met the Monk dog, the monk dog blessed her and then gave a howl to ask the candidates for the marriage to come, so that Ginger can decide, who is the right suitor for her.

Ginger gave some calming signals to see how the dogs responded, based on that she felt there was only one among the dogs who really practiced the calming signals(their core values). Ginger looked up and based on the Sun's position realized it will be noon soon. Its been 4 hours since she has been out.  She told the Monk, she has to go home and take her human parents approval before she proceeds further. The Monk dog said, what if they do not want you to mate and force you to come inside.  Ginger said, i trust them.

Ginger along with her groom came home and stood outside the gate.  Her human grandmother who was sitting in a chair and reading newspaper and was admiring the greenery outside, noticed Ginger standing outside. She called out to her daughter, Ginger has come back.

When Ginger's human mother came to the door, she realized Ginger was not alone, there was another dog with her, who was standing behind her.  When she opened the door, Ginger came running and started licking, post licking for sometime, she started going out near the other dog and then coming back. Ginger's mother, called out to the other dog and patted. She could sense, the male dog was a good dog. While she was patting the other dog, Ginger kept licking her mother. Ginger mother realized what she was trying to tell. She gave both of them food and left the door open.  Ginger left with her partner.

The grandmother asked, why are you not tempting her to come back. She said, nothing can tempt her today and also we do not have a right to change the nature course. If she feels like, she can come.

Post few days, Ginger came back with her partner.  Ginger's mother, was thrilled to see them. She opened the door and welcomed them, the partner dog, did not enter, as if telling, his journey with Ginger was only till this time and he has to move on.

Post few months, Ginger gave a litter of 4 puppies. It became talk of the town, the children in the neighborhood would come to have a look at the puppies. 

Soon the news of of litter spread wide. Lot of people came to have a look and realized that children are children, irrespective of species. They are a bundle of joy for the parents and world around. What right do we have as humans to make decisions for other species?

Sunday, October 07, 2018

Disability or Ability

Sonal was in the 12th class, she has been the prefect of the school for past 2 years. She was all-rounder, be it academic, sports, music, theatre.  She had a go getter spirit in her, she knew her strengths well and had figured out what field she would like to pursue.  She really wanted her parents to be proud of her.

In her class there was another girl called Sonam, who was differently abled, she had Downs Syndrome. Her parents wanted her to go through regular education and learn to interact with all kind of people, as that will equip her to face the real world.  Sonam was a happy kid, who loved interacting with other kids. She was very much grounded on her reality and her experience of interacting with others, had made her accept all kind of people, some who would sympathize, some who will ignore, the few who will treat her as equal.

On the last day of school, everyone took pictures, spoke of their dreams and made resolutions to be in touch.

Post School, everyone got scattered and got busy in making their careers. Some joined engineering courses, some did graduation in their subject of interests, and some joined their family business.

It’s been 9+ years now, very few were able to remain in touch.  The school had a tradition of celebrating reunion every 10, 20 years for its batches. To invite everyone, based on the information they had in their database, emails were sent to all students.  Some of them, who saw the email, broadcasted the message in other social media forums. On seeing the messages, some of them went back the memory lane and recollected the innocent dreams they had then and the fun they used to have together.

Soon people started reaching out to their old friends, asking them to check if they are coming. A new whatsup group got created and everyone had a great time recollecting memories of school, the teachers, and the places in school where they used to hang out, the nicknames they had kept for each one of them.

Everyone was gearing up for the D Day. Sonal was now working in a MNC, she was responsible of overall project execution for their big clients based on US. She had a daughter 10 year old. Luckily her parents were her support system, which enabled her to take care of work responsibilities. She had a good name in her company.  

Finally the day arrived, few had changed a lot in physical appearance and they really had to tell incident to make people believe they were the same folks. Everyone got transported to the earlier days, re-living them one more time. Constant time travel was happening, as the topics fluctuated between current times, future and past.

While everyone was chatting, a car stopped, people could see a lady getting down. There were few other people accompanying her who seem to be carrying some boxes. They saw the other folks post placing the boxes, saying bye to her and giving her a hug. Everyone had big smiles on their faces.
As the lady walked in, everyone recognized the lady with the million dollar smile, she was Sonam.
Rishi asked her what are the boxes for? She said, she got some namkeen and mithai for everyone.
Is it from your shop, multiple people asked at the same time as they remembered what she said as her dream on the farewell day?

Sonam said Yes, post 12th she started her business first from home, now she has a shop.  Someone asked who were the people who came with you and left?  Sonam said, they are my team. They came to help me and told me to have fun and don’t even think of coming to the shop.

Once everyone was in, they had a circle, where people shared what they were up to, what they recollected most fondly of school time.  Everyone had the snacks and commented on the authentic favor, which was so rare to find these days and how some of the local dishes have vanished.

It was now evening; some decided to continue the nostalgia trip a bit longer by having dinner together. Everyone bid farewell to each other, feeling grateful they could meet their friends, teachers and also recollect their own versions 10 years back.

As Sonal was going back, she thought about how everyone created their own unique paths. Some folks, whom everyone expected to follow traditional paths were now trail blazers and how some like her who people thought would make a difference, were caught in the mainstream world. As she was thinking, she thought of Sonam, she knew her interests and pursued them.

The kind of bond she had with her staff was more like an extended family.  Sonal thought of her relationship with her team in office, how transactional it was and how the deadlines mattered the most and nothing else.

Sonal wondered, did the class mates really deserve her affection she showered on them, most of them were busy in their own worlds in school and never thought of what she must be feeling, when she was not asked to join the games they played. No one ever checked with her how she was doing and did she need any help in any of the subjects.

Neither the classmates not teachers provided any support for Sonam, if she had anyone on her side, it was her family.

Sonal felt, Sonam may have a disability in the eyes of the world however their entire class including her had living disability, disability to feel for others, which was a much bigger handicap.

Saturday, February 06, 2016

jeena seekh liya



ए  ज़िन्दगी हमने अब तुमे जान लिया
तुम्हारे अनकहे शब्दो को सुन लिया
जान लिया जो समा तुम बनती हो
वोह मुझे एक सीख देने की लिए है
हमने भी हर शन की खूबसूरती देखना सीख लिया


Saturday, November 15, 2014

Best Pals

However old we may grow, the way friendships are made remain the same
When we were in school, all I wanted was for our best friend to be with me for ever
Sit next to me, eat together, keep chatting till we really had to stop
as the subjects of conversations never end

The feeling of pride when people notice your friendship and think of you as one
The want to share any joy with that special person and the belief that in case of trouble, one conversation with the friend will put the whole world to its right place
Seriously nothing is more priceless than friendship

Someone for whom in-spite of your flaws, you are priceless
Someone who can withstand your idiosyncrasies and ignore it
Someone who can really give you a dose, when you really need it

Someone who makes the world extra special for you :)

Monday, May 26, 2014

My Trip to US with Mom

I was very apprehensive of getting Mother to US, thinking how she will find it, will she get bored, what will happen if she falls sick etc. etc. 

A close friend of mine, Archana, who was staying with me then, helped me make up my mind and made me plan getting mother to US. Since my work load was going to be less, felt this was the best time.

On another friend's advice, took apartment in a residential complex surrounded by lot of greenery. I saw Houston through fresh set of eyes this time, it never seemed so green before. 

The commute to office was with my dear friend Srimant, it was nice talking on different things in mornings and evenings, mornings we would talk sober stuff listen to devotional songs, in the evening it was either talking about dilemmas in life or listening to filmy music.

Last time when i came, i realized i could not commute much on my own as the public transport was bad. Interestingly this time, i found lot more avenues to do that, making me realize when you think of someones happiness over yours, you sure can move mountains(saying literally only :)).

It was nice visiting the local attractions in Houston and visiting San Antonio. In the trip to San Antonio, we stayed in a hotel which has a small Bistro. We did not like much of the outside food, the Bistro in-charge was a sweet guy, who cater to our requests of things not in menu(milk, toasted bread etc). In the sight seeing day trip, we met lot of other people, who had come to San Antonio to escape the winter, among them were 2 sisters in there late seventies, who came from two different places to just spent time together, was amazed by their spirit to see places even at that age.

On co-commuter, bought coffee for mother and gave it to me, saying its for your mother and say Namaste from my side. This gesture made me realize my misconception that people in other countries are not that warm.  At the hotel, we met an african cab driver, who had stayed in Rajashtan for some time, she spoke bit of Hindi with us and promised us to come back on time to take us to the Mega Bus stop. It felt nice seeing the warmth she bestowed on us, she was thrilled when mother gave her a Bindi packet.

At work, it was nice meeting the clients again Tim and Katie in specific, it was nice working with them again and also see the processes being finalized for development. It was great learning experience seeing agile in action. Near the last month, i was asked to phase out, it was tough not being that active, but felt that's what is the best thing i can do for the project. 

Once the assignment was over, spent time at my cousin's place in L.A. Had a great time with everyone, it felt great part of a big family and being taken care off. Though had been to Disneyland earlier, one can never have enough of it i guess.

We made a short trip to Phoenix to see the Canyon, we went there with a group of 5 women, the guide cum driver was 78 years old, one could never guess his age from his fitness. Sedona was breath taking, was amazed to be there...on our way to Grand Canyon, it started snowing...though we could not see much of Canyon...was happy that mom could experience the snow, it was one of her wishes to see.

The last leg of the journey was in Bay area, it was nice meeting my cousin kids and my grand children. One day we decided to board the hop on hop off bus, it was a journey reaching the union square from the caltrain station. I lost the way and we had to walk a bit before we could finally find a cab. You can really feel lost in US. Thanks to smart phones, i could download a taxi cab app and call a cab. We were too tired to venture out, hence mainly sat on the bus and saw.
My cousin's son took a day off for us and took us to Muir Woods, it was amazing being with nature, nothing more filling and refreshing than that. We all three sat peacefully on the bench, hearing the whispers of nature.

We finally came back to Houston, stayed with my good friends Lalitha and Deepak, would say missed their company even when i was with my relatives.

Thanks to Jagadish and Anitha's sons' birthday, could meet everyone before getting on the flight.

I am grateful to this trip, as it showered so much love and affection. Came back to India with lots and lots of Memories. 




Monday, July 08, 2013

Let Life Touch You

Recently went to Chennai, for me apart from visiting the beaches there is no fond memory of any kind of this place.

This time went to a place called Chrompet to meet a cousin of  mine, my cousin had given me a wrong address by mistake, as a result i was searching the place, very soon people started inquiring and they tried to help them with whatever clues i gave, where does she work etc.
It felt nice, the small colony doing there searches for me :) Finally did meet my cousin and checked in to a hotel.
At the Visa Consulate, met a girl who was behind me in the line, it was interesting to see her concern when i got late in one of the procedures. Some concerns are so heart warming.

As i getting ready to travel, winding stuff at home, a friend of mine offered me help of any kind back home once i was gone. His saying that was enough for me. Had another friend come over to my place to weigh my luggage. My new neighbor suggested we have dinner together on my last day, since it was raining, we ordered pizza and had at home with disposable paper as table.

Had a friend all set to receive me in US. Really feel, what am i complaining about :)




Tuesday, January 01, 2013

Happy New Year

Life like  river knows only to flow,On facing obstacles, it knows how to make new routes or overcome the hurdles
In the same way, may we act based on conscious to make new ways
May with each coming year, we grow deeper in wisdom and broader in compassion

Here's to a very happy new year!