Stereotypical Mindsets
Its sad to see how the stereotypical way of looking at things in past are still haunting us. That's why still, we don't tell her daughter's to be ambitious, aim high but rather try but if you don't reach it, don't be disappointed.
How ever educated a girl is, irrespective of where she is in her professional ladder. The expectations at home, from husband or in-laws remain the same. She is always be assessed against the typical measure of taking care of responsibility. Being docile, adjusting, self-sacrificing as the needed traits. Its sad, our education system and social system, does not broaden people's views. Each act of yours, should show that family is your priority and you don't make any calls without consultations. It feels lot of times, people want the girl to erase her identity and become just Mrs so and so.
All adjustments forced on to the girl. Its sad to see, even post having a kid, lot of guys don't change and the upbringing of the kid is more of the wife's responsibility.
Lot of times during courtship, the guys' project a very different side of them, which is to just make the girl say yes. What traits do most guys like, how she looks, does she care for me. Its always the question, what there for me in this.
Do they ever connect at her thought level, what her thinking is and what is her innate nature, what are her dreams? The expectation is always that, she should understand me and change for me.
We as a society has lot of learning to do, to restore faith in lot of these relationships.
Its sad to see how the stereotypical way of looking at things in past are still haunting us. That's why still, we don't tell her daughter's to be ambitious, aim high but rather try but if you don't reach it, don't be disappointed.
How ever educated a girl is, irrespective of where she is in her professional ladder. The expectations at home, from husband or in-laws remain the same. She is always be assessed against the typical measure of taking care of responsibility. Being docile, adjusting, self-sacrificing as the needed traits. Its sad, our education system and social system, does not broaden people's views. Each act of yours, should show that family is your priority and you don't make any calls without consultations. It feels lot of times, people want the girl to erase her identity and become just Mrs so and so.
All adjustments forced on to the girl. Its sad to see, even post having a kid, lot of guys don't change and the upbringing of the kid is more of the wife's responsibility.
Lot of times during courtship, the guys' project a very different side of them, which is to just make the girl say yes. What traits do most guys like, how she looks, does she care for me. Its always the question, what there for me in this.
Do they ever connect at her thought level, what her thinking is and what is her innate nature, what are her dreams? The expectation is always that, she should understand me and change for me.
We as a society has lot of learning to do, to restore faith in lot of these relationships.
2 comments:
i do agree with the points, shared by you, its all in the way we understand things, in order to under stand a person, its requires personal observation and discussion. open mind to share thing with others
Nice Post
Bhargava, i agree with you. Wrote bit drastic post seeing satyameva jayate.
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